Mama's Boys - Steve Harvey "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man"

Steve says that it is the woman's fault if their man is a Mama's boy. He says "stop coming up with excuses and realize that he is a mama's boy because you let him be."

He uses a letter he received as an example. The lady was writing because her husband had left the house at 10:42pm because his mother called to help him bake cakes for a fundraiser the next day. She was wondering if she married a man or a boy?

Initially, I thought, of course, he is a mama's boy. Steve doesn't deny that the husband is a mama's boy but he tells the woman that if she hasn't set any standards or requirements for her man than he is going to follow the woman that did, which is his mother.

He says that the woman needed to set up her own requirements which were mainly dealing with respecting her and the family and putting them first. Since she hadn't done that, he left the house that night to make some cakes.*lol*

He says that the woman cannot compete with the mother but she could have some control over what she can. She could have said something, to the effect, that she knew he loved his mother but it is not acceptable and if he goes then he needs to stay the night. Then the ball would be in his court and he can either go or stand up to his mother. I don't think Steve is saying that the woman needs to make the man cut his mother off but he is saying that the woman needs to make it clear that her husband need to respect her and that the family comes first after God.

One thing I like about this book is that even though, on the surface, Steve Harvey seems to be telling the woman everything we may be doing wrong, if you look a little deeper, he is right on a lot of points. It all makes sense. If the woman is letting the man just get up and go to help his mother when he has family obligations and she has been holding it in or trying to cut the man and mother's relationship, it does nothing to help the two of them and she is letting it happen.

So let's hear it men and women. Ladies, what do you think of Steve saying it is our fault? Are you dealing with or have dealt with a mama's boy? How did you deal with it? Guys, are you a mama's boy? Would you tell your mama 'no' if she asked you to come bake some cakes?:)