Chris Brown and Rihanna

We all have read about Chris Brown and Rihanna so the discussion is not solely on them but the fact that Chris Brown beat her and then reports that they are back together. What do both of these things say to the younger generation and the people that look up to them? Should we feel differently about Rihanna, or any star/role model, going back with their abuser? JustMe

BetterMe: It's hard when the entire world is trying to be your BEST FRIEND! Poor Rihanna!
Here you have a situation that millions of women have been confronted with and they stay. Yes... as much as we hate to admit it.... most women STAY. It is sad to say, but it does take repeated abuse until many women can actually leave the men they love - even if it is an abusive relationship.
Everyone is chiming in and trying to give Rihanna advice when in reality let's just leave her alone. I'm a big Oprah fan and on Friday's show they were actually talking about what Rihanna should do. Gail even mentioned that teenagers have developed the slang phrases "Getting Rihannaed" or "Getting Chris Browned" for getting beat up or in a similar situation as Chris and Rihanna. What I really want to know is if Chris is REALLY seeing a counselor or is it just a PR stunt?
I mean it. Is he really going to a counselor for a certain number of sessions to handle his anger? Was there really the transmission of an STD between the two of them that sparked all of this? What about the unprotected behavior these two are participating in knowing that in their industry that is like suicide? NO... CHRIS SHOULD HAVE NEVER HIT, BIT, or TRIED TO KILL HER but is it really up to the whole world to pass judgment on what Rihanna should do?
Think about it... this young lady has to hear the world's opinion via e-mail, radio, TV, texts, VH1, MTV, phone calls, TMZ, ET, old singers, and the nightly news?
Let her real FRIENDS and FAMILY do their job to show support for her decision. Help her to realize that if Chris touches her again then he has a lot of people who really love her ready to kick his butt and give him a bite or two! Rihanna is 21 and like all of us, even now, there are lessons
that we must learn on our own. Of course Rihanna's was severe and to imagine someone can go from loving you one minute to biting your ear off the next is a bit CRAZY! I believe she loves him and thinks they can work through this... they have enough money to pay for the help - so maybe it will work.
Give them time and let her make a logical decision because it is 100% emotion right now. I wish them the best and let's all go buy a Rihanna CD!
Peace, love, and blessings

JustMe: I will start out by saying that I feel sorry for Rihanna. I can only imagine the pain and heartache that she is going through right now.
Granted that she is going through this publicly and it is not the best situation, she is a celebrity just as Chris Brown is. Even though they are people, they are famous people and I think that they need to have some responsibility to their fans and those that look up to them, to try and make an effort to tell those people that what happened is not right. My husband and I talk about this subject every once in a while and we never agree. He would say that celebrities do not have a responsibility to the fans because the fans do not run their life. But the celebrity's are famous and along with being famous, they have to deal with all of their issues in public and they have to respond in public, it is part of their job. It may be unfair but it is what it is. I think that there are many teenage girls and young men and women that can take this the wrong way. I do not agree, but I am not surprised, with Rihanna going back with Chris Brown but she is doing what she feels is right for her. But I do think that they do need to say something to their fans, the people that may look to them as role models. If they feel that what happened is wrong then they need to make some kind of effort to let the young people know that it is wrong. Make a Public Service announcement, go on Oprah, have an article in a magazine or something. Chris Brown saying he is sorry, is not enough. I agree with BetterMe that there has to be some sort of counseling for Chris Brown to deter it from happening again, not just Anger Management but with a therapist.
The next question is, What are the parents and guardians of the young people telling their children? Are they discussing it? I hope so.

DiscoveringME: My prays and blessing goes out to these two young people. They have everyone on their backs about what they should and shouldn't do. HECK no it was not ok for Chris Brown to put his hands on Rihanna! I think that as a role model they should make an example out of him. I think I read that he might be able to get probation or 4 years in prison. I am not going to speak on which punishment he should get, but he should get some type of punishment. I also think that he should give money to a "Battered womens Shelter" get some help which will hold him accountable. Face it they are real people like you and me and they go through things just like us and since I have never been in the situation I don't know what she should or shouldn't do. I have a hard enough time dealing with my own issues and I can't worry about her decision or comment on what should or shouldn't happen in this women's relationship. But I do think Chris Brown should be held accountable!
As far as the parents and his pastor I have no comments on this one!